Hello 

The more I travel, the more I realize something extraordinary: my friendships are getting deeper, wiser, and more real.

It’s not just age. It’s not just luck. It’s the result of healing something I didn’t even know needed healing.

June is Father’s Day month, and I’ve found myself reflecting on one relationship that shaped so many others: my relationship with my father.

For years, we had a strained relationship. Like many of us raised by emotionally unavailable fathers from the boomer generation, I carried a quiet resentment and a deep craving for connection that never came.

Without realizing it, I projected those unmet expectations onto every man I met. From high school to nightclubs to boardrooms, I kept attracting bullies. Alpha types who mirrored the unhealed parts of my past. And I let them in. Some of them even helped me go bankrupt.

But as I’ve done the work to forgive my dad and see him as a flawed but human man, not a villain, I’ve noticed something remarkable: the projection shifted. I stopped expecting men to hurt me. And in that space, new friendships began to bloom.

Three Shifts for June

01 | Heal Your Relationship with Your Father & Free Your Future

Father’s Day month isn’t just a time to honor the great dads. It’s also an invitation to make peace with the ones who couldn’t show up in the way we needed.

02 | Your Inner Circle is Your Mirror

We don’t just attract who we are. We attract who we believe we deserve. Change your internal pattern and your external friendships will change.

03 | Wisdom Isn’t Age – It’s Evolution

Today, my life is full of remarkable men in their 60s and 70s. We talk about life, wisdom, and reinvention. I get to nudge them into fresh thinking while they ground me in decades of lived experience. Like George, who I recently spent time with at Chenot Weggis in Switzerland where I gave at talk. He is wise, open, successful, and still evolving.

My friendship with George, is an example of a connection that is rich, nourishing, and real. And it didn’t appear by accident. When we stop blaming our parents for what they couldn’t give us, we free ourselves to receive something better.

Healing invites new friendships.

Actionable Insight

This Father’s Day month write a letter – that you never have to send – to your father or a father figure. Whether it’s gratitude, forgiveness or unspoken truths, say what needs saying. Then notice what softens inside.

Why does this matter? When we clear old wounds, we stop auditioning others to play roles in our unresolved dramas. And that’s when real friendships appear.

Until next time…keep evolving. And if you’re a dad – Happy Father’s Day!